How To Choose Yourself Without Feeling Guilty About It
First, Understand What “Choosing Yourself” Actually Means
Choosing yourself in this instance isn’t about putting yourself on a pedestal or sitting on a high horse.
It’s not about inflating your ego or trying to appear impressive to others.
Choosing yourself should never be a performance.
Instead, it’s about honouring your core values and building yourself up in a way that strengthens your confidence internally rather than externally.
It’s about respecting your boundaries and positioning yourself in a way that teaches others how you should be treated.
It’s about treating yourself with dignity, self-respect and love before seeking those things from anyone else.
Above all, choosing yourself is about staying true to who you are and protecting your peace!
So if this sounds like the woman you’re trying to be, then keep reading for the 7 ways to choose yourself, find true peace and not feel guilty about it.
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Choose Yourself By Not Auditioning For Love
As I mentioned before, being performative will never give you the true outcome you desire.
Your body will never relax, and that false, desperate energy will radiate wherever you go.
Choose yourself before expecting others to choose you as you shouldn't need to convince anyone why they should gravitate toward you.
Stop treating your life as if you’re in an auction, or you’ll end up being bought at a price!
2. Choose Yourself By Keeping Your Promises
Many would agree that the person you can rely on most is yourself.
This does not mean withholding trust from others, but it does mean that it is often easier and more peaceful to stand on your own word without needing anyone else’s collaboration.
Of course, this isn’t the case in every situation, but if you say you are going to start the gym, start your business, or pray… then do it.
Following through on the promises you make to yourself significantly increases your confidence, self-trust, inner strength, and growth mindset.
3. Choose Yourself By Letting People Feel Your Absence
Not in an emotionally manipulative or performative way, but in a way where you acknowledge that you don’t need to be constantly available to everyone in order to be valuable or cherished.
Stop overcompensating so you can clearly see the effort others are willing to put in for you, too.
This isn’t about testing people; it’s about understanding that your presence is not mandatory, but a precious gift you choose to share.
4. Choose Yourself By Strengthening Your Daily Routine
Not strict rules, but structure.
You want to operate with a clear, stress-free mind where your thoughts and movements reflect the woman you’re becoming.
Structure helps reduce distractions that fuels a disorganised mind and pulls you away from your purpose.
Choosing yourself looks like building a life so grounded that emotional chaos no longer tempts you.
5. Choose Yourself By Praying & Journalling Before You React
Here, I’ll speak for myself and say that my spiritual grounding has been the greatest weapon in making my glow-up deeper, moving beyond the surface.
Instead of reacting from anxiousness, hurt, fear, or impulse, I take time to pause, pray, and reflect, so that my decisions aren’t based solely on present emotions that could cause issues further down the timeline.
I love that my spiritual grounding gives me the confidence to remain dignified, find true comfort, and draw strength from calmness.
6. Choose Yourself By Dressing Well
As we’ve said before, choosing yourself shows up in how you treat yourself.
Therefore, dressing for yourself should never be about validation.
That doesn’t mean you can’t appreciate the stares and glares. It simply means you’re not moving for attention, but for embodiment.
It shifts your posture, your energy, your confidence. You begin to move like someone who truly values herself.
7. Choose Yourself By Detaching From Outcomes
This is not the easiest thing to do, and when many strive to accomplish it, they sometimes approach it in ways that aren’t healthy for their mind.
Detaching from outcomes isn’t about trying to prove that you don’t care or that you’re deeply unbothered.
It’s actually the opposite; it doesn’t ask you to lie to yourself, but rather to care deeply without clinging tightly. You begin to release the need to control how everything unfolds.
When you detach from outcomes, it’s not about giving up on success.
You stop forcing situations and start trusting alignment, as what is meant for you will never require you to lose yourself.
10 Things That Happen When You Finally Choose Yourself
You stop chasing and start attracting.
You feel lighter.
Your boundaries become natural, not forced.
You don’t overexplain.
Your routine becomes sacred.
You move differently.
You become emotionally regulated.
You trust yourself more.
You glow… And it’s not just physical.
You attract higher standards naturally.
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