10 Things You Can Do To Create A Brand New Identity
Every day at 2 am, millions of people experience a thrilling, inspiring and exciting sensation that urges them to change their lives completely.
Desperately, they want a version of themselves that’s new and improved, one that is permanent and close to their idea of perfection.
By 4 am, they realise that transforming and rebranding into the person they imagine actually takes a lot more than inspiration alone.
The excitement that was once at its peak slowly begins to fade, and suddenly, you’re back to the same old you.
The truth is, creating a new identity is not a sprint. It’s a continuous process of refining, editing and making intentional decisions to step into that ultimate arc and, more importantly, to keep going.
It’s about becoming honest with yourself and gently allowing yourself to critique the habits and traits that are no longer serving you, or that may be slowing your growth potential.
If you’re finally ready to turn that random 2 am sensation into your lifelong dream, outgrow old patterns, and step into a more aligned version of yourself, then here are 10 intentional ways to create a brand new identity.
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Decide Who You’re No Longer Going To Be
This marks the beginning of a new season, where you consciously identify the areas of your life that need reconstruction and transformation.
Being specific about who you are no longer willing to be indeed forces you to recognise and acknowledge who you are in the present moment.
It helps you understand who you’ve been in the past, and it sets a clear precedent for who you will become, and how to intentionally do gentle self-work to grow into that person.
Try this task:
Take an A4 sheet of paper and do a full brain dump of your life. This includes your current habits, desires, fears, patterns, and the parts of yourself you feel ready to outgrow. Remember to write freely and honestly, without judgement or extreme structure.
2. Change Your Daily Defaults
In other words, you need to adjust your foundations, and your foundations are what ultimately shape your identity.
Right now, you’re operating on default settings, but it’s time to consciously customise your avatar into someone beautiful, confident, intelligent, and graceful.
This means going against the internal codes and patterns that have been restricting your progress, and being willing to accept and acknowledge that certain habits and ways of living need to change.
You’ve already taken the time to break down who you’re no longer willing to be.
Now, it’s about putting that awareness into action by choosing differently in simple, everyday situations.
This should be personalised to you, but here are some new defaults to start adapting on your journey:
Waiting for motivation vs moving with discipline
Consuming more than creating vs creating before consuming
Over-explaining yourself vs letting clarity speak for itself
Seeking external validation vs using self-validation as a baseline
Avoiding discomfort vs expecting discomfort during growth
Comparing timelines vs respecting your own pace
Avoiding silence vs using solitude for self-connection
Letting fear make decisions vs letting values lead decisions
Replaying the day’s mistakes vs seeking at least one thing to be grateful for
Suppressing emotions vs naming your feelings
Saying yes automatically vs saying, “Let me think about it,” as a default.
3. Curate What You Consume Mentally & Digitally
This is actually such a big step, and I love doing this because it gives you a visual perception of who you’re becoming.
Not only are you experiencing a mental and mindset shift, but you can physically see the change the moment you open Pinterest, TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, and other similar platforms. They become constant reminders to keep going.
Curating what you consume truly does make this lifestyle shift feel more tangible and easier to sustain, because these are areas of your life that you are fully in control of.
It’s time to be intentional about:
Who you follow and subscribe to
What you listen to
What you watch
What conversations you entertain
4. Dress For The Woman You’re Becoming… Not Who You Were
Just like theatre, it’s important to dress for the role you’re trying to play.
To an audience, the characters feel more believable and for the actors themselves, dressing the part allows them to embody their roles with greater confidence.
Dressing for the woman you’re becoming is an exciting and meaningful part of your journey. It’s not something that should feel stressful or overwhelming.
It’s about your brain needing to see a visible change, because your exterior often acts as a guidebook for how you behave, think and function.
This isn’t about faking it until you make it, or catfishing your brain into believing you’re someone you’re not.
It’s about understanding that the way you dress truly does influence confidence and how you show up in the world.
5. Build One Non-Negotiable Habit
In other words, choose an action that you can stay consistent with, no matter what.
Keep it small and simple! Your consistency and drive do not need to be perfect.
And when you do falter, remember to pause, reflect and keep going because that is how a strong identity rooted in self-respect is built.
Take a look at some non-negotiable habits you can start incorporating now (don’t forget to save):
6. Change How You Speak About Yourself
Most people would never speak to their peers in a demeaning way or say things that tear away at their confidence.
Yet many people speak to themselves in this way, intentionally or unintentionally.
Over time, the body becomes so accustomed to the negativity and disappointment being expressed that it becomes uncomfortable and awkward to show themself genuine self-love.
It’s time let go of the self-deprecating humour and any other negative self-talk.
Start giving yourself compliments and words of empowerment, both out loud and within your inner dialogue.
Remember that there is power in the tongue. Whatever you say and think internally and externally can shape your reality. So my suggestion to you is to choose a joyful one :)
How do you do this?
Speak to yourself with kindness
Replace criticism with compassion
Talk to yourself like someone you love
Encourage, don’t belittle
Let your inner voice be safe
Choose empowering words daily
7. Edit Your Environment
Identifying and fixing things that can be changed immediately, such as your appearance and personal space, is incredibly satisfying, and it’s usually the first step many take when starting their glow-up journey.
Being able to visualise your transformation and watching your space slowly start to mirror the new version of you makes the process feel real and motivating.
Here are some ways to glow up your environment (don’t forget to save):
8. Act Before You Feel Ready
Most people already know this, yet it still makes them feel anxious.
No one wants to feel as though they’re putting up a facade or willingly stepping into discomfort if they don’t have to.
While I’m the biggest advocate for moving in silence and doing the work behind the scenes only to show up as a better version of yourself, I also understand that truly glowing up means surviving the awkwardness, the fear and the uneasiness.
It’s okay to move first and not wait to finally ‘feel like her.’ This is how you set your identity in stone!
So:
Go to that hobby club
Go to that concert
Go on that ski trip
Do that YouTube channel
Do that degree
Become a fashion model
Become that entrepreneur
Go. Do. Become!
9. Explaining Your Evolution
There’s a deep sense of peace knowing that even in my silence, I’m building unshakeable confidence.
I love allowing my results to speak for themselves. This shouldn’t be mistaken for secrecy or forced mystery. It’s simply understanding that I get to choose who is allowed access to me.
This is why one non-negotiable you should put in place is to stop over-explaining your decisions, feelings, ideas and opinions to others.
No, you shouldn’t restrain yourself from sharing your thoughts, but never feel forced to prove anything to anyone, especially when it comes to your personal autonomy.
10. Live As If Change Is Permanent
Perfection is not to be expected. You don’t always have to be at 100%. You don’t always have to be actively pushing yourself to self-improve every single moment.
Even self-improvement can become draining and exhausting when it’s constant and never-ending.
Living as if the changes you’ve made are permanent means no longer seeing your growth as a mere glow-up project or checklist that needs to be completed before moving on to the next best thing.
It’s about cementing your new habits into your lifestyle until they feel natural, until they simply become you.
It’s not about falling back into your old version and staying there. It’s about acting as if this is who you are now.
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